Friday, October 16, 2015

Stop Asking When A Couple Is Going To Have A Baby

I can't tell you how many times I've been asked when Andrew & I are going to have a baby. I even specifically remember someone coming up to us at our wedding & asking us when we were going to have one. I mean, I get it. We're a young newlywed couple who is surrounded by other couples who didn't wait as long as we have. Also, don't get me wrong-- I want to be a mom one day (really bad). But before you ask again, be careful.


The problem is, when you ask a couple when they are going to have a baby, you never know what they're going through. You don't know their situation in life. In honor of October being National Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month, I thought I could shed some light on this sensitive topic.

The couple could be:

-Unable to conceive

-Unable to carry the child (miscarriage)

-Unable to financially support a child (so they are trying to be responsible in not having one until they can support him or her)

-Having problems in their marriage

-Going through a rough time in their family (example: dealing with the death of a loved one, someone moved, etc.)

-Wanting to enjoy some time together, growing as a couple before bringing a child into the world

*And the list could go on & on*

Whatever the reason is, it is really no one's business when someone is going to have a baby. It may offend the couple or even hurt them. So many times, we as humans are so concerned with what is going on in everyone else's lives, that we forget it's really none of our business.

I'm glad that people care about Andrew & I & want to know what is going on in our lives, but until we announce that we are expecting, please be careful what you say. Even though Andrew & I have not lost a child or anything, as humans, we should all be sensitive to couples who don't have a baby. You never know what someone is going through.

What do you think?

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