Monday, January 18, 2016

The Problem With Growing Up

I remember when I was a kid, I dreamed about growing up. I dreamt about getting my driver's license, graduating high school & then college, getting married, having babies, & working my dream job. Many of you all probably had similar dreams as a kid.

And then we hit adulthood.


It seems like the older I get, the faster life goes. Sometimes it feels like a rollercoaster & other times it feels like a nice carousel ride. Either way though, it just keeps on going, even if you're ready to get off.

You see, the problem with growing up is that life happens. You unfortunately begin to lose people-- friends, family, acquaintances... Whether that loss is by someone moving on in life or out of this life. Loss seems to be connected with growing up.

As a kid, I always thought it was so odd for my grandparents to read the obituary section in the paper every day. Fact is, you never know who you might see in there. When you're a kid, you don't see loss like you do when you're older. Of course, some kids know loss all too well. But the majority of us don't really see it until we're older.

My grandpa passed away when I was 10 years old. It was my first real experience with death. And then the closest one to my heart since then was the passing of my dad almost four years ago. Now I'm here, "grown up" & whatnot & I feel as if I notice loss more than I ever did before.

Losing someone does things to people. It puts life into perspective. Especially with the passing of my dad, it made me realize that life is short. No one knows when they'll take their last breath. And the older I get, the more I recognize the fact that I'm not promised tomorrow & no one around me is either.

One of the best memories I have of my dad is the night before he passed away. I wasn't feeling well & went to bed early. I was lying in bed when I realized I needed to go to the restroom. After I went back to my room, my door opened & my dad asked me if I was okay. I told him I was & he came in & gave me one last kiss & told me he loved me-- & I told him I loved him back.

So I'm here today not to discourage you or bum you out. I'm here to encourage you. I'm here to tell you to love the people around you. Hug them. Kiss them. Tell them how much they mean to you. You never know what you truly mean to someone. A simple word of encouragement could be enough to get someone through their day. Life flies by. Don't regret not telling someone how much they mean to you.

Live today like it's your last.


  1. This is a beautiful post. And so very true. It's crazy how time seems to go faster the older that we get. Thank you for the reminder to love the people around me, and to tell them as well.


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