Wednesday, November 30, 2016

What I Would've Told Myself About Being a Mom

"You won't ever sleep again."
"Oh, you think it's bad now, just wait until they're a teenager."
"Enjoy your sleep now."
"Isn't it hard?!"
"It'll get better eventually.. Probably not until they're 18!"

These are the things I've heard from people. I started hearing them the moment we told people we were pregnant. I have constantly heard these things even to this day. While some of them may be true, it's not what I really wanted to hear.


Parenting is work. I knew that before I signed up for this gig, but I didn't really understand that until we had Ruby. There's no way I could have truly been prepared for what I was about to embark on. But it seemed like the moment we told people we were pregnant, we constantly received these negative messages that basically were summed up like this: Parenting is awful. You'll never sleep again. And it never gets better.

We suddenly had this overwhelming feeling that maybe this wasn't our best decision, or maybe we weren't ready to be parents yet.

I truly do get where people are coming from, but it felt like no one had encouragement to give us except for a handful of people (those people I'm extremely grateful for!). So this is what I would've told myself about being a mom..

You're about to experience one of the best things of your entire life. Sure, you won't understand all the work you're about to do until you start doing it, but it's worth it. Even though you may not feel like it's worth it, it is. Every single moment is worth it. Every time you get peed on, it's worth it. Every time you get upset because she keeps crying, it's worth it. Every time you get frustrated with her because she won't eat, it's worth it. Every time you get up in the middle of the night with her, it's worth it. SHE's worth it

Because every time she smiles at you, you realize it's worth it. Every time she learns to do something new, you realize it's worth it. Every time she stops crying because YOU pick her up or she hears your voice, you realize it's worth it. Every time she cuddles with you & falls asleep on you, you realize it's worth it. Every time she looks at you, you realize it's worth it.

It won't be easy. Some days you'll want to quit. Some days you'll think to yourself, 'Is it really worth it?' But just remember that life goes by way too quickly. Soon enough she'll be in your shoes, embarking on parenthood & asking herself, 'What did I get myself into?' And you'll be able to tell her, 'Ruby, it's worth it because...

Don't listen to the negativity. They all mean well. You'll never know a love like this until you hold her in your arms for the first time. It's one of the greatest feelings in the world. And soon enough you'll quickly realize, it's worth it."


  1. Hi my friend..Very interesting discussion glad that I came across such informative post.

  2. Yeah Sarah. It is worth it a million times and more.


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